Independent woman

When something troubles you, do you try to resolve it yourself or do you immediately seek a confidant?

I find that having lived on my own for quite some time in transient environments, and being separated from those closest to me, I have become quite effective at comforting myself and making myself feel better. That is not to say that the people who are closest to me have ceased to bring me reassurance, but when their whereabouts are unknown and their availability no longer reliable-what else can one do?

And one might think that this newly-developed skill is a positive one: being strong on your own and being able to give yourself the perspective you need to move on is a strength. However I look at it another way. I mourn the idea that I may no longer need someone to be there for me. I miss the feeling of wanting desperately to talk to the person, and I miss the bonding that takes place when you make revelations together. I miss hearing someone else's voice in my head besides my own and I miss the feeling that someone understands and cares about issues that matter to me.

In other words, with increased independence, I find my world a little lonelier of a place.